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Why Are People in EMPTY Relationships????

Trying to understand other people’s relationships,
their motivations, why they stay, why they settle,
why they are with one person when their eyes are all over another.
Why they physically stay with someone, while being emotionally checked out –

Is it for career, status, comfort,
not even knowing they’re capable of having more?
“she didn’t do anything wrong” to warrant leaving he’ll say
They walk robotically from one stage to the next;
hanging out long enough – she might as well be my girlfriend,
girlfriend long enough, we might as well live together,
living together for a year or more – I guess it’s time to commit, to wife her.

Then, if you have kids, it’s all over
he falls in love with them, even if he never was with her
will never leave, never rock that foundation –
unless she wakes up someday,
has the spark ignited by someone else,
realizes she’s been without love and passion this whole time
and walks away.

I know some who say
“I don’t want to hurt her”
Do you think you’re as good as she can get?
You think she doesn’t deserve more, to be cherished
and desired and deeply and passionately loved?
What are you protecting her from? Continue reading Why Are People in EMPTY Relationships????


Random ramblings about love…and such

Looking for old poetry of mine and found these random ramblings about love and why I jump and others are slow and all that that means….

There is a difference between encouraging and supporting someone in growth,
and trying to get them to change to be the person YOU think they should be.
What is the point of being with someone, if their love feels so conditional?
If they’re only with you because you’ve been molded into the person they want you to be?
Its not about becoming someone the person you want will want,
its about finding that person who wants you just the way you are, at this very moment,
and who brings out the best in you, whose presence makes you want to do better,
who wants to move forward in the same direction as you.

I used to wonder if I should change this or change that as had been said by a past lover,
but if I can’t be all the contradictory things that make me me, if I have to alter who I am,
if I have to pretend to not want the things I want, if I can’t be comfortable around him –
then he’s not falling in love with ME – and what’s the point in that?
Continue reading Random ramblings about love…and such