Ok, so I have never claimed to be a perfect mother or a child-rearing expert, but I am a mom and so I’d like to write about something that I think is important. Allowing our children to make their own decisions.
Recently, my daughters got a letter in the mail for the 2014 Miss Teen Minneapolis Pageant. They both decided to go to the information session/interview at the Radisson Hotel downtown. They dressed professionally, did their hair, and were excited and nervous. The woman who was speaking rubbed me the wrong way a little bit, but I brushed if off. The girls both decided that they wanted to do the pageant, we looked at fancy dresses, they fretted over whether or not they’d “get in” as the lady at the event said not everyone would. They started making a list of all the people and local businesses they could ask to sponsor them, as they’d have to get $495 a piece in sponsorships to get in.
Being the person I am though, this all just seemed to be happening so fast and I wanted to make sure I knew what I was getting them into – so I started digging around on the internet. There were HORRIBLE reviews! I guess the company that runs the pageant has changed the name of the pageants constantly in order to avoid the bad reputation that would follow, there were stories of pageants being more like cattle calls, ill qualified judges, judges who said they’d never judge another one of these pageants ever again as they were told how to score and treated rudely, people in the pageant industry who said this is a very poorly run pageant, etc. Some of the ones claiming it was a scam for requiring $495 in sponsorships, I found just didn’t know pageants as every other pageant I looked at requires some sort of sponsorship as well. I also looked at the Better Business Bureau website and the company who runs the pageants has a B rating. Not horrible, but at the same time, it was hard to even track down the name of the company that runs them so maybe some people don’t know in order to file complaints?
I shared some of my misgivings with my mother who immediately said “don’t walk away, RUN!” Continue reading Learning to Make Decisions