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You Are The One

You are “the one” but not in the way I once thought,

you are not my soul mate, not “the one” I am meant to spend the rest of my life with.

You are the one who helped me learn so many life lessons, Continue reading You Are The One

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We Cannot Undo What We Say or Do….

My biggest and most painful life lesson, which I have been reminded of and thinking on a lot lately.

Before you make any decision take as much time as you need to breathe, to slow down, and to really think about it before verbalizing your decision or acting upon it. Make sure you are making decisions based on who you truly are, what you truly want, not influenced by those around you for whom these decisions do not directly impact and that you are making decisions not based on impulse but making decisions that you can live with today, tomorrow and six months from now. Continue reading We Cannot Undo What We Say or Do….

Time to Let Go of Hope?

I read this today from my friend’s daily calendar “Insight from the Dalai Lama”:

                There is a saying in Tibetan, “Tragedy should be utilized as a source of strength. No matter what sort of difficulties or how painful an experience is, if we lose our hope, that’s our real disaster.”
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ADDICTION

I was going to write about this in poetic form, but it wasn’t sounding quite right, was sounding like I was trying to oversimplify or be dismissive.  Addiction is something I understand personally, but not in the grander scheme of things.  I get how it affected me. I get how it still affects me as I am still addicted to nicotine. What I have never gotten or fit in with is the whole recovery culture, the Alcoholics Anonymous/Narcotics Anonymous structure. I don’t get the entire philosophy that says “I have no power” and how that helps people. How does saying that you are powerless help you recover? For me – I want to claim my own power; my power as a human, as a woman, as a mother. I want to own it, to stand firm in it, to grow confident in it. I don’t want to hand that power over to anyone else or try to say I don’t have any – that seems so foreign to me. And yes, I’ll piss a lot of people off saying this, but that just sounds weak. It sounds like you’re holding on to a good excuse for if you do screw up, like then we can just blame some force outside of ourselves for our own decisions. I also strongly disagree with the term “recovering” that says that every single person on the planet who has ever been an addict will ALWAYS be an addict, that you can’t ever be RECOVERED. 
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