I read this today from my friend’s daily calendar “Insight from the Dalai Lama”:
There is a saying in Tibetan, “Tragedy should be utilized as a source of strength. No matter what sort of difficulties or how painful an experience is, if we lose our hope, that’s our real disaster.”
Why do we feel this need to not lose our hope? To keep hoping for things, things we may never obtain? Isn’t it then MORE painful to continually hope, only to be disappointed? Isn’t it better to stop having hope, stop hoping for, wishing for, or expecting anything – then you can’t be hurt or disappointed?
Merriam-Webster defines hope three ways:
“to cherish a desire with anticipation”
“to desire with expectation of obtainment”
“to expect with confidence”
So when we hope for something, there is an element of expectation. If what we pin our hopes to never happens, how healthy is it to keep hoping? I have begun to lose hope in a lot of things, but I’m thinking that maybe if I stop desiring or expecting them so much – maybe it will hurt less not to have them? I don’t know if that will work – in my heart of hearts I’ll probably still want them, I just will no longer “cherish the desire with anticipation.” My life is the way it is – maybe it is time I work on being content with that instead of hoping for all the things that may never be????